You could publish your files to a local folder and then try to publish using FileZilla.
I’m not sure exactly what you mean here. You said you would “restarted RW and it would publish a few times“, did those changes not show up?
You should probably go through the steps outlined here:
https://help.realmacsoftware.com/en/articles/1905457-how-to-fix-ftp-publishing-issues